if you need somebody to talk to right now, call 988.
if you need somebody to talk to right now, call 988.
When your child is coming out to you - before you react at all - please STOP and take a deep breath. Words spoken in haste cannot be recalled. Your child’s greatest fear is that you will stop loving them. But your child is still the same person and deserves your unconditional love.
coming out
A loved one coming out as queer can feel like a bomb exploding, destroying our perceived image of what “family” looks like. Our own values, prejudices, and beliefs are suddenly challenged, throwing us into overwhelming fear. This may cause us to instinctively lash out with denials, hurtful words, or accusations.
While no road map will look the same for everyone on this journey, knowing there are resources to help navigate the twists and turns can give you courage to begin.
coming to terms with queer
In the past, queer was used as a slur. Now the term is being liberated by some advocates within the LGBTQ+ community.
Queer is now an umbrella term used for those who do not identify as heterosexual ("straight") or cisgender. It creates a space of acceptance and inclusivity for all, regardless of gender or sexuality.
Kathy Tu and Tobin Low, co-hosts of the podcast Nancy, which features stories that cover all things LGBTQ+, gathered the best tips for both sides of this conversation.
grappling with gender
Sometimes, when we find ourselves in a new and unfamiliar scenario, we don’t even know where to begin asking questions to get help. It’s ok. Journeying into the unknown; and challenging beliefs ingrained in us since we were toddlers is scary. But you can be brave, and we are here to help you learn where to start.
Gender identity is not easy to understand. The Trevor Project has created an guide to Understanding Gender Identity to explain the diverse ways people express their gender or sex.
Gender Spectrum has created a survey to help you to figure out some answers. Often this means learning new parenting skills and understanding no two families are the same, and no single set of solutions will be perfect for every family. Gender Spectrum's information is full of amazing tips and advice that you can use as a launching point until you find what works best for your family.
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This TEDx Talk will give you more insights on The Revolutionary Truth About Kids And Gender Identity.
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Even if you feel aware and accepting of all genders and sexual orientations, you may be suprised at how often subconscious beliefs influence your actions. BBC has created a 3 minute video that might amaze you.
